The Doorway
Writing on the part of recovery nobody talks about.
This is where I write about what begins when the applause ends. If you want to know how I think, and how I would meet you, this is the truest place to find out before you ever fill out an application. New essays most Sundays. It is free.
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Done the Work. Now What?
You've done the therapy. You're not in crisis. You know the next step isn't more of the same. And yet there's something missing, a quiet incongruence, a void that doesn't have a name. You're not failing. You're not regressing. You're not still broken. You've graduated. Recovery isn't the destination. Recovery is the doorway.
More from The Doorway
The Threshold: on wanting more than the life you fought for
That restlessness is not a crack in your recovery. It may be the most important thing happening in it. This isn't a place you pass through once and leave behind. It's a threshold that keeps reappearing. And every time it does, it means the same thing: you're ready to become more.
The Beauty Born From It: on gratitude without erasure
I am not grateful for what happened. And, after all of my own work, I can look back and feel gratitude for who I became. You are not who you are in spite of your story. You are who you are because of it. And that person, the one all of it made, is worth knowing.
What Is the Divine to You? The God I was handed, and the God I found
The God I was handed had to be earned. The God I found is what I'm made of. That is the whole distance I traveled. I will not tell you that my path is the right one. The seeking is what matters. Finding your own meaning is what eventually makes you whole.
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